• being human

    Lightening the Load

    M and I are taking a trip to California to celebrate her 18th birthday; I’m organizing to get ready. While I tend to travel (and live) light, each excursion provides an opportunity to examine how I can be more minimalistic. I love the thought of living out of a carry-on bag for several days. Today I reorganized my every day items, eliminating things I rarely use. I feel out of sorts this morning, but a little lighter too. While we can physically see that decluttering helps the home, we can also physically feel the act of doing so in our bodies. I know who I am and what’s important to me. Living with…

  • rituals

    Do Different to Be Different

    Weare creatures of habit. We go about our days unaware of the stuckness of routine until it feels hard to break free. Yet it’s in the breaking that real change occurs. A certain level of sameness is good. Morning routines make us more productive. Moving every day is great for physical and mental health. Particular sleep schedules that are optimal for us individually should remain. But what routines do you keep that don’t serve you? In what ways are you going through the motions? If you “do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you always got.”

  • being human

    What People Think of You is None of Your Business

    My outgoing teen daughter has an issue with my social graces lately. Ms. Rosy Sunshine talks to everyone she meets, and likes to visit with friends often. She’s happy, funny and smart. Others enjoy her company. I remember way back when — I was her. Over the years I’ve changed. I would rather be alone — a lot. I recognized this in myself over a decade ago when I worked full-time at a busy government office. Instead of going out to lunch with co-workers, I’d typically pack, eat outside and take a brisk walk to clear my head. These days I work from home and I am in my element. I spend most days writing. We live in…

  • being human,  stories

    Examining Story & Truth

    How much of life do we go through believing everything we think, say and do is truth? How much do we judge others because of our own viewpoints, without ever really taking into account the other person’s reality? But reality infers truth, and most of us don’t know the depths of the truth that exists. We live, instead, in the stories. And I think most of the time we only scratch the surface. Each of us is the sum of our experiences, but there is more to it than that. We are the things that have happened to us. We are the things that haven’t happened to us. We are our parents voices.…

  • gratitude

    The Joy of Beginning

    Each day, a new beginning. Each moment too. Sometimes life is too much. And when it is, what do you do? Do you obsess and worry over things you can’t control? Do you berate yourself for the bad choices you’ve made? Do you wake each morning with the angst of yesterday or the dread of tomorrow? The world’s weight on your shoulders is, in part, a choice. Do you choose to let it take you over, or do you choose something different? Can you allow yourself to go to sleep and let it go? Awaken brand new? It’s possible, you know. Life always moves through. While we are always the same, we’re so…

  • synchronicities

    The Psyche Doesn’t Care

    There is so much more going on here than we can see in day-to-day life. Real life or imagination, it’s all the same to the psyche. We can actively live something or we can symbolically do so. To the mind, it’s all the same. Crazy, right? And a bit freeing too. Swiss Psychologist, Carl Jung, wrote extensively about such matters, as have countless others who’ve studied Jungian Psychology. Allow me to elaborate. A few working definitions … psyche the human soul, mind, or spirit. And in psychology, it’s defined as the totality of the human mind — conscious and unconscious persona/conscious ego personality the outward ‘face’ we show to the world shadow those…

  • being human

    But Are You Happy?

    Maybe I’m built differently or maybe I’m just like you but I question everything. I have far more questions about life than answers. I drive myself (and likely those around me) crazy with my incessant wondering about the meaning of life. It’s why I write. I’m hoping one day the answers will show up. Or maybe they’re already here; I just can’t connect the thoughts into a cohesive unit to make it all make sense. Everything swirls and I’m left wondering. Am I okay? Very well then. Am I happy? What brings me joy? And if joy comes from solitary activities, am I missing the point of life? Why do I judge myself so much? Why do I…

  • being human

    Vanity & Aging

    I wrote an Instagram post last night, about being vain and how much it drives me crazy. The attached ‘snap chatted’ photo of me accompanied the post. My skin is flawless thanks to the filter. It’s not real life. I am forty-nine years old. I don’t look forty-nine in the photo, do I? I’m glad I don’t look forty-nine. Within the last month, I’ve been carded three times for alcohol. I ran into an old friend who asked my age then raved that I don’t age. Another acquaintance said she couldn’t believe I was that old. “Get out,” she said. This was real life. I felt so happy and proud in each of…

  • being human

    On Becoming Real

    “It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.” Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit On Authenticity, Realness So much of my life has been about how things looked from the outside.…

  • gratitude

    “Life Sucks and Then You Die”

    Where did that saying come from and why did so many of us buy into it?  And if we bought in, what does that mean for our lives? There are literally thousands of things to be aggravated with each day — traffic, electronic malfunctions, unkind people, general hassles, minor inconveniences — but how much does aggravation help? Does it help at all or does it make things worse? In my experience, the latter is true. “Thoughts become things” is a statement I latched onto years ago. I don’t absolutely know it’s true, but it certainly feels true. Every time I allow myself to get caught up in frustration, it seems frustration expands and…